There is a fine line between thriving in chaos and wanting to run away from it all. As soon as the scales tip, I daydream about driving until the gas runs out and starting over wherever that happens to be. Then Responsible Me speaks up, reminding Reckless Me that We have a husband, pets, a job, etc. and we can’t drive off anywhere. Fine, Reckless Me, responds, I need a vacation.
The only problem is, I can’t take a vacation every time Reckless Me feels the urge. Not only that, vacation is supposed to be fun, not a way to escape daily life. If I was really living my best life, I wouldn’t need to escape it would I? Vacation could be about exploring new places, going on adventures, trying new things, eating different foods, relaxing and just having fun. They wouldn’t have to be I-don’t-care-where-just-get-me-out-of-here weekend trips, sleeping in a hotel, tricking myself into feeling rejuvenated, just to go back to work Monday and realize that I don’t feel better at all.
No, what I need isn’t a vacation. What I need is to rest every day. Such a simple concept but so difficult to put into practice. I don’t have time to rest – I have things to do. Work, taking care of pets, cleaning the house, making food, spending time with my husband… Where would I find the time for resting? Especially when there are more important things to do.
I’m wrong again. Rest is important. Rest keeps Reckless Me from trying to commandeer this ship and lets Responsible Me feel calm amidst the chaos. I’m talking about physical, emotional, and spiritual rest. I need sleep, y’all. I need my bedtime routine. Ideally, I would read and/or write for half an hour, wash my face, brush my teeth, pray, and fall asleep to a guided meditation every night. Most nights I barely get my teeth brushed.
As an introvert, I need emotional rest too. I spend a lot of energy being with people, making conversation and interacting with others is draining for me. If I don’t have time alone to recharge, I am grumpy and unpleasant. See, I worry about what to say and how to say it; I worry what people are thinking of me, and why did I wear this outfit? It takes a lot out of me, even when I’m with people I know and love to be around. So the down time by myself is really important.
Arguably the most important kind of rest is spiritual. It’s a common verse – “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”* But what does it mean? What kind of labour, and how heavy is heavy laden? There are plenty of people who work harder, longer hours than I do. Do I really need to take up the Lord’s time and attention?
Absolutely. We all need rest. God gives it to us for free, every day, if we’ll take it. It really is easy, if we can let go of our obligation to all of those things on our to do lists. We don’t have to live in chaos until we feel the desire to escape from life. We can, and should, rest daily in the Lord. He can handle all of our burdens. He can enlighten us as to what is important, and which of those to do list items can be erased. Wouldn’t it be responsible of me to take care of myself, so I can show up better for my family and my job?
That starts with letting go of the idea that I have ever, or will ever, thrive in chaos. I haven’t, and I won’t. That’s not how God wants me to live. He wants me to have joy in Him. I should make time for prayer, time for bible reading, time for work, time for family, time for hobbies, time for vacation, and remember that if I’m overwhelmed I can take it all to the Lord, who gives us rest.
❤ JK
*Matthew 11:28 KJV